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Treatment and Recovery
The saying “Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic” exists because recovery is not an easy process, and it can sometimes take years to find a methodology that works and is sustainable for an individual; there are often relapses that take place on the road to recovery.
Due to the nature of frequent episodes of powerlessness over our behavior, attached to addiction and alcoholism, we often acted in a way we would never act in sobriety. We had limited control over behaviour at times due to intoxication and acted on occasion in a way that shames us today. The other part is that this guy, if an alcoholic like me, has real difficulties accessing in his heart and mind how he actually “feels” at any particular time. Or rather what emotions he is experiencing at any particular time. One of the earliest studies on AA members concluded that they were linked in commonality by two variables, emotional immaturity and grandiosity! I would contend that grandiosity is a part of emotional immaturity. I also contend that our “maladjustment to life” is based on emotional immaturity which is in itself a function of emotion regulation and processing deficits. What we used once to regulate negative emotions and a sense of self has eventually come to regulate our emotions to such an extent that any distress leads to the compulsive response of drinking. Alcoholics had become a compulsive disorder to relief distress not to induce pleasure. That is not to say that normal people cannot be full of sin – a cursory look around the work and it’s events will soon confirm this is the case.
It is the emptiness we feel on such a deep level that we turn to self-medication in order to alleviate the sadness and despair that go hand in hand with. But in our quest to fill this void with any and everything we can think of, we completely miss that the only thing that can actually fulfill us a spiritual connectedness to something greater than ourselves. Dr. William Silkworth was a well-known psychiatrist in the 1930’s who worked tirelessly with alcoholics and addicts. In what is known as The Doctors Opinion, which is found in the “Big Book”, Alcoholics Anonymous, Dr. Silkworth makes a number of observations in his study of alcoholics. In those observations he humbly admits his limitations in producing the “entire psychic change” that is necessary for one of his patients to find freedom from addiction. This leads him to speculate as to the nature of the problem. Because he cared enough to listen and understand their experiences, alcoholics tend to trust him. This spiritual problem taints our ability to see rightly, which would seem to include understanding the problem. This, however, does not leave us without hope because there is One who understands all things and He has graciously given us His word. We must look to him to rightly understand the nature of addiction.
More straightforward facilities that focus on healthy coping mechanisms. These may work for some people, but they did not work for us. At Jaywalker Lodge, what is a spiritual malady we can only in good conscience back and employ the process which we know to be successful. The sin disease idea became the “spiritual malady” of AA.
Often people like us have some of the strongest will power that exists. Addiction and alcoholism are both a 3 fold disease, meaning there are three distinct areas that alcoholism affects and the reason you cannot stop drinking and using. For example, one variable I believe is slightly different in alcoholism to other affective disorders is distress based impulsivity which leads to maladaptive decision making, it leads to always wanting more of that…that anything. Sins I believe are the poisoned fruit of fear, often helped along in alcoholics by false pride, shame and guilt. These defects are related to me being an alcoholic, they are intrinsic to my condition. I sin so naturally, effortlessly and usually without even trying. I believe my so-called defects of character are linked to my underlying emotional disorder of alcoholism.
Those who are seeking to be the best often seek the feedback of others and are more accepting of constructive criticism and instruction, making them more agreeable in their interactions. First things first, if anticipation of the future and what holds spiritually is alive, lay it down. Addiction must be tended to on the physical realm, or at least, this is the primary focus initially. When anticipation of the future consumes potentially healthy actions of the addict, this is simply another way that the addiction is dominating the healthy self. The worried or rebellious anticipation of the future is a cue to bring the focus back to seeking physical abstinence and motivations for doing so. In order to fully recover from alcoholism, addiction and addictive behaviours, we find we have to trust at least one other human being. AA’s 12 steps are a spiritual program of recovery but at the heart of that spirituality is the role of sponsoring.
The guy was probably in guilt too as he could been working on his recovery more. If we leave self pity to fester long enough it becomes depression, that is my experience anyway. Defense mechanisms are central to psycho-analytic thought – such as projection etc, the idea that we expel “out of ourselves what we do not like about ourselves onto others. This seems compounded what is a spiritual malady by not always being able to read our emotions or somatic states. I am assailed externally by fear of what other’s think about me and internally about what I think of me – when these two line up it can have a powerful and damaging effect on my psyche. We have difficulties in our relationships with others, these relationships are often unhealthy and ill.
This subject is covered in much greater and more personal detail in the book Alcoholics Anonymous. At Jaywalker Lodge, we can help you navigate and understand this valuable book and find the higher power that will be key to your recovery. We are all suffering with the Spiritual Malady to a greater or lesser degree. We all feel a sense of dis-ease bordering on despair at times. We all want to be happy but to enjoy lasting happiness, first we must attain peace of mind. Ren Koi explains exactly how you can attain peace of mind and enjoy lasting happiness via ten simple lessons. It is therapeutic exchange and shame reducing to know someone else has committed similar sins or has acted for similar reasons; they were powerless over their behaviours. Although social support is key to early engagement in the Twelve-Step membership, over time, spiritual issues emerge as increasingly important and helping others achieve recovery is at the heart of this. The message of recovery is usually from someone who has recovered from alcoholism, this is a power greater than yourself as he/she has used certain tools to recover and this is now being passed on to you, as they were passed onto him or her. The solution to your alcoholism is the same as the solution to their alcoholism.
What the book says is that the only thing that will solve our drink problem is a spiritual awakening, spiritual experience, attitude adjustment, or psychic change. The bottom line, a true alcoholic or addict has no power to stop, avoid, or control their drinking. Keep in mind that this is separate from the physical craving. Even after someone is completely detoxed and has all alcohol or drugs removed from their body, they will still obsess about drinking or using. These illustrate how the 12 step programme can help with an emotion dysregulation disorder. I have suggested clearly in previous blogs how I think AA’s 12 recovery programme helps specifically with problems of emotion dysregulation. For me this is saying that out of my emotion dysregulation “stem all forms of spiritual disease”.
The 12-Steps are the most direct way that we know of to discover a power greater than ourselves. What’s more is the recovery lifestyle teaches us how to stay in constant contact with our higher power, thereby granting us access to the power we lack, but desperately need, in order to get and stay recovered. These things were true to some extent, in fact, to a considerable extent with some of us. These emotion processing deficits also appear to make us more impulsive, and to choose lesser short term gain over greater long term gain in decision making. It can lead to a distress feeling state that can make us fear based, perfectionist, have catastrophic thoughts, intolerance of uncertainty, low frustration and distress tolerance, be reactionary, moody, and immature in our emotional responding.
Most active ingredients accounting for AA’s benefit are social in nature, such as attending meetings, and the 12 steps mention “we” 6 times but not “I” once. Millions of lives have been saved not to mention the lasting benefits it has brought to families, and societies once harmed by alcoholism. It symbolizes that this was the day when one alcoholic helped another alcoholic achieve lasting sobriety. I have a spiritual tool kit that deals Sober House with this emotional disease. If someone hurts me, according to my step 4, my angry resentment of what they have said or done makes me ashamed. I grew up in a family that did not express emotions like the ones I had mentioned. We reacted via anger and put downs hence I have grown up to be dismissive. Anger responses are modeled and learned in some families. The anger response is more comfortable than feeling the shame for some individuals.
You have no class. Instead of enjoying this moment for what is, a wonderful moment for these families and your fathers administration, you have to politicize it. You have a spiritual malady and a deficit of character.
— Bone spurs (@bone_spurs) May 10, 2018